The other day I was reading someones Facebook post. It went something like this: Why is it you have to renew your driver's license and fishing license, but not your marriage license? I want to give you some background info on this person. She is getting married May 15, it's a second marriage, has one child-a girl that has finished college and lives on her own, never really been on her own. Okay enough info. I just wanted to say that post really made me think.
I think that everyone knows, and a lot of people feel the same way, marriages are not perfect. We all have our times when we ask what if? what if we hadn't got married? what if I hadn't married this person? what if I had finished (fill in the blank) before getting married? I could go on and on with what ifs, but really have you thought of it, what if you had to renew your marriage license? Would you renew or would you go in a different direction with your life?
I told Bigblock about this person's post on Facebook, and my reply, which was "People wouldn't renew their license LOL". He said that he would renew the license. I said I wouldn't. I know, that probably hurt his feelings, and that was not my intent at all. However, I have been thinking about this for probably the last two weeks.
Just think, what if you had to renew your marriage license every year? or every two years? or maybe five, or ten? Would you renew, and what are your reasons?
When I was raising Thing 1 and 2 I would have renewed. This is probably not a popular reason, but I felt that my boys needed both parents. I was raised in a broken home, and didn't want the same for my children. Sometimes I think the reason for the high divorce rate is because the parties don't put the children as the priority. The husband/wife just know they're not happy, and so leave. I would NEVER say to anyone to stay in an abusive relationship, if however you're just not happy with your life choice, think about the children first! Now that Thing 1 and 2 are grown, it is so much easier to say, No I wouldn't renew. However I have my reasons for staying. Among them are that I still care for Bigblock, but I don't love him like I used to or even probably like he deserves. I have life goals that are easier to accomplish, and at the same time, harder to accomplish staying here.
Now, it's YOUR turn! What if you had to renew your marriage license? Would you or not, and what is your rationale? Talk to me...........
P.s Happy Mothers Day