Friday, April 17, 2009

2nd

Second post for the day are you impressed?
The reason I am posting again today is because something is really bothering me. Yesterday I did something totally without thinking, and now I am totally obsessing about it. I should tell you that I usually make a mountain out of a molehill, I worry if there's nothing to worry about, I wait for the other shoe to drop almost continually. Can you do all this and still be optimistic? Somehow I manage it.

Have you ever done something totally without thinking? Every time I do this I think when are you going to grow-up and start acting like an adult, and think before you react? I am sure my gut has about 500 ulcers in it just because of my stupidity. Yes, I get an upset nervous stomach, can't sleep, and am just miserable. I also realize that I am generally harder on myself than anyone else could ever be, that's a remnant from my childhood.

So my question(s) for you is how do you let go of stupid mistakes? how do you stop repeating them? how do you accept that you're not above making mistakes and everyone will sometimes feel this way too? Help me out here people:D


6 comments:

Chef E said...

My unprofessional opinion would be...the fact that you are admitting this is the start! What else is going on...

Paula and Skip said...

"Repeating the same mistakes and expecting a different outcome is called insanety."
Having said that I am VERY INSANE, shooting form the hip and wondering about the outcome. By now I have a coach / mentor helping me along. Good luck! A wonderwoman will manage easily ;-)
Paula

Debra said...

Honey, you are not alone! I feel the EXACT same way at times. You are just human. Like E said, the fact you acknowledge it is a start. We just need to learn to stop beating ourselves up. Notice I say we because I am in the same boat. Hopefully knowing that you are not alone helps! ;-)

Midlife Mama said...

Gah! I do this ALL. THE. TIME. I rehash and rehash in my brain. This is the type of thing that goes through my head: What did I do wrong? How could I have been so stupid? I am an idiot. I think I'll pack my bags and leave for the French Foreign Legion tomorrow. What will they say? What will they do? Do they hate me? Did I sound sarcastic? What if they take it the wrong way? They must think I'm an idiot. He was not friendly to me just now; I must have done or said something to piss him off. He is mad? Am I going to get fired? Everyone hates me. No one is being friendly to me today. What have I done wrong? *insert gnashing of teeth and rending of garments, and tearing out of hair.*

Believe me you are not the only one that does this. I am my own worst enemy sometimes. I live in a constant state of anxiety over something that I may or may not have done. And you know? Often when you finally work up the courage to face someone over something stupid you think you did? They haven't thought a thing about it, had not even spent a minute upset about whatever. Then you feel like a bigger idiot for reading more into it than it is.

This is a long comment, but I believe it boils down to this: You want to control everything that happens to you and you can't. You can only control your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. You cannot control what other people think, feel, or do. If you goofed up, face the music, confess and ask for forgiveness. If they don't forgive, then it is on them not on you. You know you did everything you could to fix the mistake and move on. Easy for me to say, I know.

Anyway you are human and bound to make mistakes. Sounds like you were raised like I was, feeling that it is NOT OKAY to screw up or people won't like you or love you anymore if you do. Believe me, that is not true. Big hugs for you.

Smart Mouth Broad said...

By now, I hope that you've let it go since I'm so late getting here. If not, you have to. Just keep telling yourself, "Let it go, Louie". I don't know if you remember that old Budweiser commercial or not but that's what I tell myself when I get "carried away." I'm a worrier, fretter and neurotic kick my own asser too. LOL Let it go. You're only human and we're all stupid sometimes.

Mom's Fortress of Solitude said...

"So my question(s) for you is how do you let go of stupid mistakes?"

D.I.V.O.R.C.E. (thanks, Dolly!)


how do you stop repeating them?

Don't know that one yet, cause the idiot in me married again!


how do you accept that you're not above making mistakes and everyone will sometimes feel this way too?

Hmmmm . . . good question. It's all part of life's little lessons, I guess. It wasn't until mistake number 999,999 that I realized:

* ya can't please 'em all
* ya hafta be smarter than the refrigerator, and dumber than a box of rocks simultaneously
* Sometimes ya even hafta to be deader than a doornail. Just lie back and take it like a woman (it helps to pretend you're asleep)! LMAO! :oP

The millionth time, however . . . oh now that one's so much fun. The millionth times a charm!

I think that's about the number I finally decided to throw my hands up and say, "To HELL with it all! I'm done." It could be the lack of hormones, though, since I am getting to that ripe ol' menopausal era in life. Maybe that's why I'm finally growing a pair!

Oh, sorry, this was supposed to be about you, wasn't it?!? ;o)

Don't worry, you're not alone. If it helps you ponder life a bit, and put things into perspective, you can climb into the passenger's seat of my car, and I'll ditch you in Nowheresville. ROFLMAO!!!!

Kidding, of course . . . just trying to lighten the mood a bit. ;o)

Was that too sarcastic? I hope I didn't hurt your feelings any.

See, I do it, too. You and I both know, though, that's the way we get through life and all it's little mishaps . . . Humor, baby!

Angela